Ecclesiastes 5:17 says “Throughout their lives, they live under a cloud – frustrated, discouraged, and angry.”
Who lives like this? Those who never have enough. Always searching for more possessions, more wealth.
That’s been me, and probs you too. This attitude pops up in me often, and I hate it. I feel frustrated with my home because it’s not where I want it to be. I get discouraged because I try something out and it doesn’t work, or I see how long it would take me to save up for what I want. Perfection now, please.
When I begin to think that if I just had thisone thing then I would be satisfied, I’ve fallen into a cyclical trap. As soon as I get that thing or finish that project, there will ALWAYS be another one. I’m never going to take a look around and be like, “BLESSED BE! It’s all perfection! I can now enjoy my life!”
So how do I stop being such a turd about my house?
It’s good news. Solomon goes on to say that it is “…good for people to eat, drink, and enjoy their work under the sun during the short life God has given them, and to accept their lot in life.”
Now it may take a lot more than just telling yourself to enjoy and accept your lot in life, but working towards that might just clear up that cloud of frustration, discouragement, and anger we were talking about.
With the overwhelming amount of beautiful homes we are exposed to from the internet, not to mention people’s perfect snapshots on Instagram that don’t represent reality, we are becoming even more disconnected from our “lot” in life.
But if this discontentment with reality has been happening since Solomon’s time, it’s certainly not new. It just has new ways of creeping up. I would love to blame our discontentment on the fact that pictures don’t show budgets, time allowances, stress, etc., but that isn’t all of it.
It’s because I am ungrateful. I wanted this house so badly. I wanted to marry Madison and decorate the house and have people over. I got everything I wanted (and so much more) and I’m still not happy sometimes, because I don’t stop to thank God and be grateful for what he so graciously gave me. I fail to accept my lot in life. Which is dumb, because it’s awesome.
^^Oh wait that’s not my house oops
My home was given to me for a reason! My unique brand of home-iness, style, and ability to welcome people is useful. It is God-given and it is meant to be just what I need, just what those around me need. So don’t compare yourself to someone who has less and think you have more to be grateful for, and don’t look to someone who has more and lament your standing. When you are operating in contentment and enjoyment of what you have, what your neighbor has doesn’t matter.
Let me leave you with a thought. Do you remember what mattered in your home as a kid? The precious memories I have revolve around events like making “soup” out of stuff from the yard and water, dressing up and singing to Shania Twain in the living room, and sticking play-dough in the cracks of our kitchen table. I felt safe, cared for, loved, and I had so much fun. I didn’t compare my life to others’ until I got older, and that’s when joy started seeping out little bits by little bits.
If comparison doesn’t leave us anywhere good, then let’s all agree to work a little more on being grateful for our lot, and then on the truly important things like love, kind words, and silly fun. THOSE make a home, not throw pillows.
So from here on out, if I am being a whiney butt wipe about my house, will you all remind me of this post? THANK YA!